Best Tips to Flirt on a Dating App

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If you’re just dipping your toes into the waters of online hookups, you may be struggling to figure out how flirting works in a virtual space. 

How do you convey the right tone? How can you let someone know you’re interested in them? How do you know when they like you back? 

If you’re asking yourself any of these questions, you’ll be relieved to know I have the answers. Just take a look at these tips and tricks for flirting on a hookup app. 


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Tips to Flirt on a Dating App

1. Use Emojis 

Hands down, the best way to flirt on any hookup app is with emojis. The biggest problem we all run into when we’re texting or chatting online is how to convey the right tone. You could simply be asking someone what they’re up to and it could come across a number of different ways. 

The best solution to this problem is to use emojis. Just by adding a simple “smirking face” or “heart-eye” emoji, you can take your chat from platonic to flirty in no time flat. 

Now, if you’re completely out of the loop on how to use emojis to flirt, here’s a quick primer: 

  • The Eggplant Emoji: this famous purple emoji represents a man’s most prized possession if you catch my drift. 
  • The Peach Emoji: the cute little peach emoji has become a symbol for the perfect ass. 
  • Water Drops Emoji: this suggestive symbol indicates sexual arousal.
  • The Drool Face Emoji: this guy is reserved for letting someone know they’re looking extra sexy. 
  • The Heart Eyes: the most innocent of the bunch, this cutie shows your admiration for someone. 

2. Send Pictures

Hey, I’m not talking about dick pics here, so zip it back up fellas. In all seriousness though, there’s nothing wrong with dick pics if they’re asked for. In fact, sending nudes can be a fun and sexy way to utilize a hookup app. 

Before you get that far though, sending a simple selfie is a great way to flirt through chat. It doesn’t have to be overtly sexual, I’m just talking about a flattering picture that you take with your mobile phone. Exchanging pictures can bring a personal touch to the chat and helps to ensure there’s no catfishing going on.

3. Send a Virtual Gift

You’ll find that a lot of hookups and dating apps have the option to send virtual gifts. Whether it’s a rose or a heart, sending a virtual gift makes your intentions very clear. Other dating apps have the option to “super like” another profile. This also shows that you’re very interested in matching with someone. 

Any option like the ones I’ve just listed should be taken advantage of to show someone how you feel. These types of features are built in to help you flirt without hassle. 

4. Ask Them Questions

An easy way to flirt with someone on a dating app is simply by asking them questions about themself. Now, this doesn’t mean you should interrogate them, but a few thoughtful questions can show your interest. 

More importantly, you should avoid talking about yourself for the entire conversation. Not only is it a turn-off, but it’s just boring conversation. If you really want to initiate a flirty conversation, ask them some insightful, light-hearted questions to get the conversation flowing. 

5. Say Their Name

Don’t ask me why, but when you use a person’s name in conversation it just adds a special touch. It shows that you’ve been paying attention. Of course, don’t overuse this one, otherwise, it comes off as a bit creepy. However, used just right, I guarantee it can make anybody swoon. Combine this trick with a well-placed compliment and you’ve got a recipe for flirtatious success. 


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6. Respond in a Timely Manner

A lot of dating apps have “read receipts,” which means the person you’re chatting with can see when you’ve read their messages. Now, if you read their message and then decide not to respond until the next day, they might think you’re not interested in them. 

Responding within a reasonable amount of time shows that you want to keep the conversation going. If your goal is to turn up the heat on a conversation, the last thing you should be doing is leaving someone on “read.”

7. Have a Sense of Humor

If you are still not totally comfortable initiating a sexy conversation on using an app, I would highly recommend using humor to break the ice. Of course, this works best for people who are naturally inclined to make people laugh, but anyone can learn. Getting a giggle out of your chatting buddy is one of the best ways to flirt and build chemistry in a natural way. A little playful teasing here there is never a bad idea either.

8. Try Video Chat

So far, all of these tips are catered towards texting and online chatting on a dating app. Well, in some cases, hookup apps and websites have a video chat option that you may want to utilize. 

Often times, texting can only get you so far when it comes to flirting. It can be to your advantage to have a “face-to-face” phone conversation to really get the sparks flying. 

Video chat really removes the need for emojis because it’s so much easier to get your point across. Now, I understand that for those of you who are on the shy side, this might be asking a little much, but I wanted to include it as a good option for flirting online.  

9. Talk Dirty

After trying all of these hookup tips, if you’re getting the idea that your chat partner is into you, take the heat up a notch with some dirty talk. Flirting can very quickly turn into sexting if you know what to do. Try a few naughty lines out and see if the feeling is mutual. 

Now, you don’t have to jump into x-rated material right away. You can start by getting to know what the person is into. Talking about fetishes and fantasies is a good way to measure compatibility and can lead to some very entertaining sexting. 

Final Thoughts

Well, there you have it. As you can see, flirting on a hookup app doesn’t have to be complicated. The best advice I can give you is to focus on creating a good conversation. Ask them questions, make a few jokes, and throw in some flirty emojis. It’s really as simple as that. If you can get some solid chemistry going, you’ve accomplished the mission.  

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Tony Parker

Hello, my name is Tony Parker, entrepreneur, sex blogger, and founder of I have over 10 years of experience in sex and online dating, and I have spent most of my life learning the art of kink, fetish, and BDSM. I created KinkyHookup as a way to create a community of like-minded people.

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