What Do Women Really Want In a Man?

What women want

People have a tendency to overthink things. This is especially true in relationships. There’s this myth that adult relationships need to be complicated and that there has to be drama. This couldn’t be further from the truth. We men tend to think of woman as being these insanely complex and complicated beings who we can never truly figure out. In reality, it’s not hard at all to be the man of a woman’s dreams. You just have to know the basic qualities that woman look for and appreciate in men. Here are eight things to keep in mind to ensure total satisfaction for your woman.

More sexual chemistry

This is a quality that is usually established on the first date. It’s normally pretty obvious whether you click with a certain woman or not. If you don’t, that’s perfectly okay. We’re not going to connect with everyone, good thing there are billions of potential matches out there in the world for us to explore. Obviously, physical attraction plays a large part in the initial stages of forming chemistry. Remember, every woman has different tastes. If you’re in the dating pool, make the most of it. Go on several dates with different women to see who connects most with you.


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Equality and respect for one another 

Long gone are the days where women were looking for their “prince charming” to rescue them from their parents’ households and take care of them. Unless you’re looking to be a sugar daddy, most woman you encounter want to be treated as an equal, not as a subservient. With the rise of the feminist movement, you need to ensure that you don’t come across as an asshole, pardon my French. This may seem obvious, but there are some subtle behaviors that women find disrespectful. Make sure, for example, that you allow her to order for herself when out at a restaurant. Some men think it’s chivalrous to order for their date without allowing them a chance to speak for themselves. While some women may appreciate this, most would see it as dominant behavior which is frowned upon by many in 2019.

Security and trust

No woman wants to be with a man that they feel is unable to keep them safe at all times. Unless you’re involved with a trained fighter, that is. Not only does it make logical sense to protect the woman who you court, it also exudes an aura of sexiness. Many women are extremely attracted to a man who shows that they can protect her no matter the situation. Of course, that’s not to say you have to engage in an altercation with every man who may glance her way, that would be obnoxious. It’s just nice for a woman to know that she’s cherished enough by her man to warrant protection. It’s also nice for her to know she can have that extra drink at the bar knowing that you’ll be by her side if anything goes wrong.

A responsible man

Some women are just looking for sex online, but a woman who is in search of a man is looking for a partner, not a child to take care of. It’s important that you are able to take care of the important things in life. Bills need to be paid before money is spent on entertainment. Having a steady stream of income is essential as well. No woman who is looking for a long-term relationship wants to feel like a mother to the person she’s dating. That is perhaps one of the best ways to drive a woman away and send her into the arms of someone else. If you aren’t taking care of business, there’s always someone else lurking around the corner that would be more than willing to pick up the slack.

She wants to feel respected  

This is a given, but it’s important to reiterate. Women want to feel respected in their relationships. It goes beyond the obvious infractions, such as cheating. This means no to fawning over the perky breasts of the bartender when you’re out on a date. It means allocating enough time for her to ensure the relationship has a chance to flourish. While that’s not to say you have to revolve your entire life around her, that’s not healthy for any relationship. Women just want to feel like they take precedence in our lives and are a priority. Treating her with respect will go extremely far in establishing a long-lasting relationship.

Lots of  love and affection

Even the most stoic and cynical women out there still appreciate the occasional display of affection. That’s not to say you have to be the couple that is openly overindulging in PDA every chance they get. Just know that gifting her flowers or chocolates shouldn’t strictly be a Valentine’s Day and birthday affair. Random acts of kindness go a long way in a women’s heart. You don’t even have to spend money. Make her a homecooked meal or run a warm bath for her before she gets back from work. Affection also applies in the bedroom. Most men approach sex as an act of physical satisfaction. However, to most woman, sex is an emotional adventure. Make sure that you’re mixing in some sensual love with the wham bam thank you ma’ams.


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Empath and acceptance of who she is 

Women want to feel free in their relationships. If you judge her or are too critical of her, she’ll most likely retreat into a shell and become distant. The worst thing you can do to a woman is lower her self-esteem. Even if she stays with you, she’ll always feel insecure and unable to be completely open in the relationship. This creates the perfect formula for another man to steal her away. The second she finds a man who accepts her flaws and is okay with them, she’ll either leave you or embark on an affair and (believe me women have lots of resources for cheating). This goes hand in hand with respect. Women want to be loved unconditionally. This is really easy in the beginning, but in the long haul, it can be easy to forget this. This is a leading cause of the failure of most marriages. At the end of the day, just love her for her.

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